When I moved to Austin in 2013, a local friend warned me about the traffic. Being from Boston–where I honed my wicked Massholian driving skills–I casually brushed off his warnings much like I’d flick away a buzzing insect. However, after only 5 months of life in Texas, I understood completely.
There were times when I personally felt stressed while in traffic–in fact, I thought if I were going to die in a car wreck, it would be on I35. Several local clients of mine also expressed that driving was a source of tension for them. So, here is some advice about how not to lose your s**t while in traffic, regardless of where you’re commuting to or from!
- Find ways to experience pleasure / fun: This is actually my favorite strategy, which is why I list it first. An example of a safe way to do this while driving (or rather sitting in a parking lot that should be a highway) is to put on some awesome music. I prefer the up-beat, old-school, belt-it-out variety, but you may prefer more relaxing, new-age, meditative tunes, or listening to that book you’d never have time to sit down and really read.
- Generate compassion for other drivers: This may be the most difficult, and also the most rewarding technique. Instead of thinking of what “that person” isn’t doing right, try to imagine all the ways they are just like you. Maybe they’re tired, hungry, or just had a fight with their significant other. Maybe their minds are on their jobs, or thinking about doing something more fun. Another way of doing this is recognizing that it’s not THEY who are traffic; to them, YOU are traffic!
- Practice breathing: So many of us breathe shallowly throughout the day, and we are more prone to it when feeling stressed out. Breathing deeply engages the parasympathetic nervous system, increasing your oxygen intake. It also helps you feel calm and centered. As part of your daily self-care, you can use the fact that you’re sitting (especially when you’re not moving) to try a simple breathing exercise like counting your breath: e.g. “one” on your inhale, “two” on your exhale, “three” on your inhale, and so on. And when you lose count, notice that, and begin at one again. Do be careful, however: you never want to feel lightheaded or overly distracted.
- Create a mental gratitude list: We often read that listing things we’re grateful for can help improve our mood and improve our relationships, among other benefits. But taking time to do this in a journal (at least for me) rarely happens. So, why not use the time in traffic to start listing off all the things you’re grateful for? You can start with your current day, or look to your past, or even run through your intended future plans. Or you can think about people, places, or things. For more ideas, check out 60 Things to Be Grateful For in Life.
We tend to think of being “stuck” in traffic as negative, but each of the above strategies ask for a shift in your perspective. More specifically, traffic gives you time to enjoy and engage in practices for stress reduction. Since most of us find it difficult to include time for self-care as part of our typical day, traffic offers this to us. (Think of it this way: it’s like when you’re run down because you’re doing too much, and then you get sick. Your body actually forces you to rest and slow down.) So, if we re-frame the time we spend behind the wheel, traffic is actually a gift!
How can YOU make your experience of being in traffic a gift today? If you have another idea to share, please let me know. We can use all the help we can get. 🙂